Ya know, I used to not have issues starting up conversations. When I was younger, I’d find an associate, immediately mention one of my interests (“Do you like Thomas & Friends?” “Do you like Pokémon?” “Do you listen to Hip-Hop?”), and attempt to talk about something related to those things.
Why? Because talking about anything else was mostly difficult. I didn’t know how to aid the discussion very far. If/When I didn’t have a response, I’d become quiet and avoid eye contact.
Some people were intimidated by my behavior, and I was occasionally chastised for it. I often had anxieties. What was wrong with me?
Currently, I’ve learned from my experiences. My eye contact has improved, and I start, facilitate, and end conversations fairly well. Communicating isn’t as complicated as it used to be…but I’m very introverted now. I’m not saying that’s a bad thing, but this wasn’t always part of my character.
I’m pretty certain that being criticized for my previous behavior led me to being more reserved, solitary, and selective about the people I talk with. I favor being introverted though.