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What Are You Talking About?

Ya know, I used to not have issues starting up conversations. When I was younger, I’d find an associate, immediately mention one of my interests (“Do you like Thomas & Friends?” “Do you like Pokémon?” “Do you listen to Hip-Hop?”), and attempt to talk about something related to those things.

Why? Because talking about anything else was mostly difficult. I didn’t know how to aid the discussion very far. If/When I didn’t have a response, I’d become quiet and avoid eye contact.

Some people were intimidated by my behavior, and I was occasionally chastised for it. I often had anxieties. What was wrong with me?

Currently, I’ve learned from my experiences. My eye contact has improved, and I start, facilitate, and end conversations fairly well. Communicating isn’t as complicated as it used to be…but I’m very introverted now. I’m not saying that’s a bad thing, but this wasn’t always part of my character.

I’m pretty certain that being criticized for my previous behavior led me to being more reserved, solitary, and selective about the people I talk with. I favor being introverted though.

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Timeout.

Many Autistics may suck at eye contact. It can cause anxiety and overstimulation. A common alternative is looking at something else when conversating, like a wall or the floor.

However, I acknowledge that Neurotypicals may consider eye contact important. It’s a common, natural behavior that may be a form of trust, comprehension or much more. I believe I’ve been told that my lack of eye contact makes me seem intimidating or apathetic as a result (FYI, I have Autism).

My point is this: We’re all human. We all have our own characteristics and feelings, and ones that are different may appear strange to us. Thus, you can experience discomfort from lack of eye contact in the same way that an Autistic feel uncomfortable providing it, and that’s fine.

But critisizing any of those two reactions as irrational or ignorant would be patronizing and discriminatory. Unfortunately, a lot of Autistics are at fault here.

For whatever reason, when Neurotypicals are publicly appalled by not receiving eye contact, many Autistics become offended, claiming Neurotypicals are being intolerant or violating, even though it’s a normal reaction to a normal function. This is not a progressive thing to do. It’s ironic and patronizing.

Let’s be forbearing of each other without undermining each other.

ladyhistory

ladyhistory:

ladyhistory:

WOULD THE PERSON WHO JUST SET OFF A DAMN FIREWORK IN MY NEIGHBOR KINDLY CONTAIN YOUR EFFERVESCENT PATRIOTISM UNTIL FRIDAY WHEN THE REST OF THE COUNTRY VOLUNTARILY BLOWS SHIT UP

I’M GOING TO CORRECT THAT TO “NEIGHBORHOOD

PEOPLE ARE NOT SETTING OFF FIREWORKS IN THEIR NEIGHBORS

THAT IS MURDER

That is Sex.

Excuse me: American Sex.

I can’t hear you over the sound of my freedom.

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youneedacat

There has seriously got to be a special place in hell...

youneedacat:

…for parents who write a memoir, in the first person, from their nonverbal autistic child’s perspective.

Okay maybe I’m being too harsh, but this kind of thing, whether in books or webpages, really pisses me off. It’s like it’s not enough all the other things they do, they have to put their…

Nope. It’s not harsh at all. When I was younger, my parents would speak for me when I couldn’t do it on my own.

Sometimes they were accurate, but most of the time they’d be completely wrong. In that case, I’d wave or shake my head to get their attention, THEN I was able to talk (in a soft spoken tone) and express myself. I think those situations helped me to communicate coherently on my own.

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>tfw

>tfw

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molentary
molentary:

young witch in training [listen]an eclectic, vaguely creepy mix for young witches traveling far away from home, wandering through dark forests, battling dangerous monsters, and becoming adults. includes music that ranges from whimsical fantasy-esque scores to songs that make you want to strap on your black boots and kick down doors.

01. rörliga bilder - daniel olsen02. happy birthday (a death in the family) - clint mansell03. becomes the color - emily wells04. devil do - holly golightly & the brokeoffs05. the melody of the specter’s flute - nishiura tomohito06. to ursula’s cabin - joe hisaishi07. lose your soul - dead man’s bones08. black sheep - gin wigmore09. my boy builds coffins - florence + the machine10. stina - daniel olsen11. iris - nishiura tomohito12. in our talons - bowerbirds13. one summer’s day - joe hisaishi14. 1940 (amplive remix) - the submarines15. the legendary paradise - nishiura tomohito16. vaggvisa - daniel olsen17. compass - shim hyun jung18. on a clear day - joe hisaishi19. the heroic weather conditions of the universe, part 1: a veiled mist - alexandre desplat20. les passants - zaz



I wanna be a witch now. I wanna learn witchcraft with this as my soundtrack.

molentary:

young witch in training [listen]
an eclectic, vaguely creepy mix for young witches traveling far away from home, wandering through dark forests, battling dangerous monsters, and becoming adults. includes music that ranges from whimsical fantasy-esque scores to songs that make you want to strap on your black boots and kick down doors.

01. rörliga bilder - daniel olsen
02. happy birthday (a death in the family) - clint mansell
03. becomes the color - emily wells
04. devil do - holly golightly & the brokeoffs
05. the melody of the specter’s flute - nishiura tomohito
06. to ursula’s cabin - joe hisaishi
07. lose your soul - dead man’s bones
08. black sheep - gin wigmore
09. my boy builds coffins - florence + the machine
10. stina - daniel olsen
11. iris - nishiura tomohito
12. in our talons - bowerbirds
13. one summer’s day - joe hisaishi
14. 1940 (amplive remix) - the submarines
15. the legendary paradise - nishiura tomohito
16. vaggvisa - daniel olsen
17. compass - shim hyun jung
18. on a clear day - joe hisaishi
19. the heroic weather conditions of the universe, part 1: a veiled mist - alexandre desplat
20. les passants - zaz

I wanna be a witch now. I wanna learn witchcraft with this as my soundtrack.

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Common Sense Is Not So Common   

Common Sense is a form of Knowledge derivied from Experience and Reason. It exists, but it’s entirely Subjective. What you believe to be obvious may not be obvious for someone else.

E. Coli are bacteria that can be found in your intestines. Mario Kart 8 sold over 2 millions copies. Almost half of the students in colleges don’t know how to use Critical Thinking. Being Antisocial is a Personality Disorder, which consists of Psychopathy and Sociopathy.

I love those subjects, so much that I can state them at any time, quickly and efficiently. However, you cannot guarantee someone or everyone possesses the same Knowledge as I do, nor that it’s apparent.

And if another person doesn’t have the same Knowledge you do, then they wouldn’t and couldn’t possibly know what you think is “plain as day”. Thus, it’s silly, and I’d say narcissistic, to say “Duh”, “Obviously” or “That’s Common Sense”.

denkokoro
theaubisticagenda:

denkokoro:

next-to-nting:

denkokoro:

meeralith:

denkokoro:

11/10 would wear this everywhere.

Do you want a cookie now? Is it that much of a big deal… like… is it something unusual that autistic people are loved?
Supporting. You’re doing it wrong. by making this about you

Well, it’s not unusual for someone to feel uncomfortable being the partner of an autistic person.
It’s not unusual for someone to be intimidated or frustrated because of someone’s autistic symptoms, such as speech delay, sensory issues (not wanting to be touched, lack of eye contact, sensitivity to loud noises, etc).
It’s not unusual for autistic people to be ignored or given awful treatment because of their condition.
I think you’ve partially or completely misunderstood the premise behind the shirt. It’s not “about me”. It’s for people like me that have experienced prejudice for our neurological disorder.

But embrace also means to hug, so they should make one for people with Autism that also says ”Please, do not make an attempt to engage in physical contact. Thank you.”

"Please do not make an attempt to engage in UNWARRANTED physical contact" should be on the back of the shirt.
See what I did there?

Why would you willingly wear a puzzle piece?
We’re not mysterious conditions…we’re human beings. 
The puzzle piece represents the “mystery” and “search for a cure.”
I’m going outside right about now because sensory blah, so I’ll get back to you [if you bother to respond to this anyway] later.

Incorrect."The autism puzzle piece meaning strives to incorporate the diversity and multiple characteristics of the condition. The puzzle piece has been used to globally represent autism and its cause."http://autism.answers.com/autism-awareness/the-autism-puzzle-piece-logo-meaning#slide=1

theaubisticagenda:

denkokoro:

next-to-nting:

denkokoro:

meeralith:

denkokoro:

11/10 would wear this everywhere.

Do you want a cookie now? Is it that much of a big deal… like… is it something unusual that autistic people are loved?

Supporting. You’re doing it wrong. by making this about you

Well, it’s not unusual for someone to feel uncomfortable being the partner of an autistic person.

It’s not unusual for someone to be intimidated or frustrated because of someone’s autistic symptoms, such as speech delay, sensory issues (not wanting to be touched, lack of eye contact, sensitivity to loud noises, etc).

It’s not unusual for autistic people to be ignored or given awful treatment because of their condition.

I think you’ve partially or completely misunderstood the premise behind the shirt. It’s not “about me”. It’s for people like me that have experienced prejudice for our neurological disorder.

But embrace also means to hug, so they should make one for people with Autism that also says ”Please, do not make an attempt to engage in physical contact. Thank you.”

"Please do not make an attempt to engage in UNWARRANTED physical contact" should be on the back of the shirt.

See what I did there?

Why would you willingly wear a puzzle piece?

We’re not mysterious conditions…we’re human beings. 

The puzzle piece represents the “mystery” and “search for a cure.”

I’m going outside right about now because sensory blah, so I’ll get back to you [if you bother to respond to this anyway] later.

Incorrect.

"The autism puzzle piece meaning strives to incorporate the diversity and multiple characteristics of the condition. The puzzle piece has been used to globally represent autism and its cause."

http://autism.answers.com/autism-awareness/the-autism-puzzle-piece-logo-meaning#slide=1

denkokoro
next-to-nting:

denkokoro:

meeralith:

denkokoro:

11/10 would wear this everywhere.

Do you want a cookie now? Is it that much of a big deal… like… is it something unusual that autistic people are loved?
Supporting. You’re doing it wrong. by making this about you

Well, it’s not unusual for someone to feel uncomfortable being the partner of an autistic person.
It’s not unusual for someone to be intimidated or frustrated because of someone’s autistic symptoms, such as speech delay, sensory issues (not wanting to be touched, lack of eye contact, sensitivity to loud noises, etc).
It’s not unusual for autistic people to be ignored or given awful treatment because of their condition.
I think you’ve partially or completely misunderstood the premise behind the shirt. It’s not “about me”. It’s for people like me that have experienced prejudice for our neurological disorder.

But embrace also means to hug, so they should make one for people with Autism that also says ”Please, do not make an attempt to engage in physical contact. Thank you.”

"Please do not make an attempt to engage in UNWARRANTED physical contact" should be on the back of the shirt.See what I did there?

next-to-nting:

denkokoro:

meeralith:

denkokoro:

11/10 would wear this everywhere.

Do you want a cookie now? Is it that much of a big deal… like… is it something unusual that autistic people are loved?

Supporting. You’re doing it wrong. by making this about you

Well, it’s not unusual for someone to feel uncomfortable being the partner of an autistic person.

It’s not unusual for someone to be intimidated or frustrated because of someone’s autistic symptoms, such as speech delay, sensory issues (not wanting to be touched, lack of eye contact, sensitivity to loud noises, etc).

It’s not unusual for autistic people to be ignored or given awful treatment because of their condition.

I think you’ve partially or completely misunderstood the premise behind the shirt. It’s not “about me”. It’s for people like me that have experienced prejudice for our neurological disorder.

But embrace also means to hug, so they should make one for people with Autism that also says ”Please, do not make an attempt to engage in physical contact. Thank you.”

"Please do not make an attempt to engage in UNWARRANTED physical contact" should be on the back of the shirt.

See what I did there?

probertson
shinshuinbloom:

probertson:

CAPTAIN TOAD

hell yea 

I’m inspired to buy the game now.

shinshuinbloom:

probertson:

CAPTAIN TOAD

hell yea 

I’m inspired to buy the game now.

I wish I could say how proud I am to have Autism, or that I live in a manageable environment…but I don’t.

It’s not easy having Autism. My character, interests, and reasons for doing things are usually different from other people. I may be functioning better than other people on the Spectrum, as that’s taken a lot of work, but I often don’t feel comfortable or accepted.

I want to look people in the eye when I talk to them.

I want to speak without talking too much nor any delay.

I want to deal with loud noises, touch and heat without cringing or heating up.

I want to enjoy crowds, smiling, laughing, and walking comfortably with anyone.

I want to like and talk about things that don’t intimidate/bore people.

I want to stop stimming.

I want to stop having meltdowns/anxiety episodes.

I want a complete understanding of empathy so I don’t apologize excessively and unnecessarily.

I’ve done a good job diminishing all of those symptoms to appear “normal”, and while it’s still present and tormenting, I continue to move forward. There are people who love me, respect me. I have passions.

I gotta stay strong. I appreciate a large portion my life very much.

Love For Robots by Den Kokoro on SoundCloud

denkokoro
meeralith:

denkokoro:

11/10 would wear this everywhere.

Do you want a cookie now? Is it that much of a big deal… like… is it something unusual that autistic people are loved?

Supporting. You’re doing it wrong. by making this about you

Well, it’s not unusual for someone to feel uncomfortable being the partner of an autistic person. It’s not unusual for someone to be intimidated or frustrated because of someone’s autistic symptoms, such as speech delay, sensory issues (not wanting to be touched, lack of eye contact, sensitivity to loud noises, etc). It’s not unusual for autistic people to be ignored or given awful treatment because of their condition.I think you’ve partially or completely misunderstood the premise behind the shirt. It’s not “about me”. It’s for people like me that have experienced prejudice for our neurological disorder.

meeralith:

denkokoro:

11/10 would wear this everywhere.

Do you want a cookie now? Is it that much of a big deal… like… is it something unusual that autistic people are loved?

Supporting. You’re doing it wrong. by making this about you

Well, it’s not unusual for someone to feel uncomfortable being the partner of an autistic person.

It’s not unusual for someone to be intimidated or frustrated because of someone’s autistic symptoms, such as speech delay, sensory issues (not wanting to be touched, lack of eye contact, sensitivity to loud noises, etc).

It’s not unusual for autistic people to be ignored or given awful treatment because of their condition.

I think you’ve partially or completely misunderstood the premise behind the shirt. It’s not “about me”. It’s for people like me that have experienced prejudice for our neurological disorder.

denkokoro
femmemaninsoul:

cupcakeinatorellie:

ianthe:

denkokoro:

11/10 would wear this everywhere.
I’m not trying to beg for notes, despite what the pic says; but if you dig the message, why should I stop you? Lolz

I LOVE PEOPLE WITH ALL OF MY AUTISMI LOVE WITH THE FULL FORCE OF AUTISM

Lol I remember visiting a student seminar on autism and during the discussion I compared “I love someone with autism” shit to white people being like “I have a black friend!”

LMAO That comment was exactly what I was thinking in my head. 
It’s like wearing shirts that say “I’m not a racist.” or “I don’t rape women” GOOD FOR YOU HOMIE HERE’S A COOKIE FOR BEING VAGUELY DECENT. -__-

Here’s the thing: it usually takes a some patience and understanding to deal with an autistic. He/she might not like being touched, crowds, noises, certain textures (clothing)…To love an autistic person despite all of that is what the message represents, and I think a partner should take pride in their tolerance and love.Hell, sometimes it’s not easy being the partner of someone with a neurological disorder; so I think you equating the message with “I’m not a racist” or “I don’t hate women” is unfounded.

femmemaninsoul:

cupcakeinatorellie:

ianthe:

denkokoro:

11/10 would wear this everywhere.

I’m not trying to beg for notes, despite what the pic says; but if you dig the message, why should I stop you? Lolz

I LOVE PEOPLE WITH ALL OF MY AUTISM

I LOVE WITH THE FULL FORCE OF AUTISM

Lol I remember visiting a student seminar on autism and during the discussion I compared “I love someone with autism” shit to white people being like “I have a black friend!”

LMAO That comment was exactly what I was thinking in my head. 

It’s like wearing shirts that say “I’m not a racist.” or “I don’t rape women” GOOD FOR YOU HOMIE HERE’S A COOKIE FOR BEING VAGUELY DECENT. -__-

Here’s the thing: it usually takes a some patience and understanding to deal with an autistic. He/she might not like being touched, crowds, noises, certain textures (clothing)…

To love an autistic person despite all of that is what the message represents, and I think a partner should take pride in their tolerance and love.

Hell, sometimes it’s not easy being the partner of someone with a neurological disorder; so I think you equating the message with “I’m not a racist” or “I don’t hate women” is unfounded.